Giving Birth: The Ordinary Miracle

In my clinical experience and research the main factors in women feeling a positive sense of themselves no matter what kind of birth they have are:

-- that she feels herself to be an active participant in the process, including decision-making

-- that she perceives her feelings throughout the process are acceptable and that her caregivers support her free expression and release of these feelings before, during and after childbirth

-- that she has been realistically prepared for labor with a sense of mastery in her own coping skills

-- that she is not perceived by others or herself to be in control of the process, the baby or the outcome of labor

-- she is only responsible for doing her best to cope with the power of contractions in whatever form she is experiencing them. It is understood in the case of desire or need for surgical or other intervention or medication, planned or unplanned prior to birth, she is entitled to respect and supportive assistance in responding to her physical and emotional needs

-- that she is given ample opportunity to express her feelings about motherhood, including her experience of her own childhood family relationships

-- that she is given ample opportunity to explore her feelings and circumstances surrounding her own birth, her mother’s childbirths, and any previous pregnancy and childbirth experiences of her own

-- that she and her partner explore the childhood role models of their respective parents relationships for intimacy, conflict resolution and expectations for caretaking, with an eye towards developing their own plans and values for their relationship as partners and as parents

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