Going Back to Work After a Divorce

Does this sound familiar? "I am a mother of three growing kids, and I've been divorced for a year now. I know a lot of mothers find it impossible to leave their kids to work full-time after being with them, and I was one of them. I had no savings when I left my ex, and now I need to support my kids. I was just offered a job -- from 9:30 in the morning to 8:30 at night. I won't be seeing my kids at all, other then when they're asleep."

A lousy situation, no question. And believe me, this is not such an unusual tale. You want to be with your kids. But you need the money. Making the transition back to the work world after losing a husband or getting divorced is daunting and scary.

Going to work each day just because you are desperate for the money is hardly motivating. Needing the income is one thing, but finding a job that will reward you is another.

You don't have to do all this alone. If you are looking for a new job, don't be afraid to ask your friends and family if they know of any opportunities. You should also check with the usual suspects -- employment agencies and search firms, for instance.

And network as hard as you can. Go to job fairs in your city. Read the help wanted ads, even consider going back to school to hone a new skill that will help you land a job you'll enjoy both financially and emotionally.

Once at work, get involved. Staying busy is maybe the best way to move ahead with your life. This is your chance to be independent and successful, particularly after the knockdown of a divorce, regardless of who chose to leave the marriage. Work successes can build your self-esteem back up.

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