Sounds intimidating, but you've already voiced what you want -- now take matters into your own hands (literally).
"You don't have to throw your guy against the wall and initiate everything (unless you’re into that) but you shouldn't lie there like a rag doll, either," Lipper says. "It takes two to tango, and it’s not all up to the man to make the sex good. You have to perform, too. Take a little bit of control and help guide things in the right direction. You have the power to make this experience memorable and delightful for both of you."