Great Sex Without Intercourse

Sensual Massage

Massaging your partner is among the most coveted activities in a relationship. A sensual massage, however, is a slightly different kettle of fish because it is relaxing and sexually stimulating at the same time.

There are very few rules to giving a sensual massage, but generally, slow and sexy movements are key. Take your time, use a scented essential oil that has aphrodisiac properties, such as ylang-ylang, and keep the lights low. Glide over her skin using firm but gentle pressure with your hands or whichever body part you want to use, such as arms, chest, stomach, legs or feet. Just make sure to cover every inch of her body and avoid her hot spots until the final act. The idea is to make her want you to touch her hot spots. Take your time and create anticipation, and she surely will want your touch.

Touching each others' bodies releases mood-enhancing endorphins, and no matter what happens afterward, the body feels good simply for having been nourished from the outside in. Also, don't expect a sensual massage in return; it's the last thing you feel like doing after receiving one.

Role Playing and Costumes

When it comes to sex, role playing gives us more options; if you are normally quite reserved, you can live a little and be a bit more daring. If your girl is normally shy, she can unleash the dominatrix within. The personas we can morph into with erotic role play allow us to significantly expand our boundaries. Your girlfriend may not like being tied up as “herself,” but her exotic dancer alter ego might love it. With some creative role play, our rigid rules can change.

Role playing becomes even more exciting if you include costumes; women love dressing up. Costumes give us the opportunity to actually get into character, which releases many of our inhibitions. Role playing with costumes is fun, entertaining and liberating. You can get into all sorts of debauchery when you are not really yourself.

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