When looking at the sticky subject of divorce and how the children are affected, one should consider that the correlation between the parents' coping skills and the child's coping skills is very different. Divorce is a time for someone to grow as a person. It is not a time that should be spent in constant misery. Throughout the divorce and the time following it, the parent must be aware that it is possible to be a nurturing, and loving parent. It is a time when the child needs both parents in his life. Remember that your child's self-esteem does not have to be diminished by divorce. This can actually be a time when the child's self-esteem can be strengthened, but it's going to take hard work on the part of both parents for their child/children to grow up emotionally healthy.
- The parent should not constantly discipline the children for every act that they make. The parent should also listen to the child's point of view. Show them that you care for their feelings and not just your own. This should be a give and take relationship between parent/child, especially when faced with divorce.
- Give your child/children some time to adjust to the new lifestyle they will be encountering. Children more than the parents need some time to cope with the changes that will be taking place as a result of the divorce.
- It is important the child/children know that the reason for the divorce is not them. Many children, usually the younger ones, feel that they have done something wrong that results in the parents’ separating.