Guys and Commitment

8. One sex partner, forever

We naturally crave sexual variety. When we commit '- either in marriage or cohabitation '- we willingly volunteer to cut ourselves off from any other sexual pursuits. Sexual boredom can set in, followed by a total lack of desire. For a lot of us '- even guys who weren't getting a lot of action anyway '- this can be the scariest consequence of all.

7. We've been burned before

When we've been divorced and run through the wringer of the court system, many of us are reluctant (read: "terrified") to risk a second commitment. Nowadays, we aren't exactly chomping at the bit to sign a contract legally allowing a woman to clean us out financially. Successful achievers '- those of us who have built companies and high-powered careers from the ground up '- are especially afraid of being forced to hand over all the fruits of our hard labor and may make the decision never to get involved in a serious relationship again.

6. The emotional baggage

Many women look at marriage through Cinderella eyes '- for them, putting a ring on their fingers means that we will magically solve all their problems, from childhood issues with their fathers to huge shopping debts incurred on credit cards. Women often submerge their true personalities and agendas until the knot is tied '- but when the truth comes out and the we find ourselves legally bound to a woman who's not right for us, it's too late.

5. Lack of compromise

Commitment implies the ability to compromise '- ideally a marriage should be a 50/50 partnership in which each half contributes and shares equally. But to a woman, "compromise" often means "do it my way or you're cut off from sex."

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