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9. Hobbies and Interests
Couples must find ways to enjoy each other's company as much as doing things independently. But either extreme is dangerous. If you find yourself attached to your girlfriend to the point where you can't even go out with your friends without her, you will likely grow too dependent on her and leave yourself susceptible to loneliness if you break up or if she gets transferred for her job. Conversely, not having anything in common in the extracurricular department might make you grow distant and vulnerable to falling for new people.
How do you find out?
This is the kind of topic you can discuss on initial dates. If your only idea of fun is drinking to the point of inebriation and clubbing until dawn, when the only drink she swears by is Perrier and the only club she goes to is the country club, then at some point, you will need to find some common ground in order to enjoy your time together and look forward to seeing each other. Do not ask her for a list of her interests and hobbies; asking her what she spent her weekend doing or what she did the other night, can help you determine what makes her world go round. Even telling her what you do on the weekends can help you see whether she has similar interests.
As your feelings grow and the chance of commitment increases, you should be aware of her past health record (as she should of yours). I'm not suggesting that you probe into private or sensitive topics, but knowing that she is a diabetic or is allergic to shellfish, for example, can save her life.
How do you find out?
Look for signs: If you see your date popping a pill after her meal, politely ask what it's for. After all, if it were something she wanted to hide, she would take it in private. With time, you can even inquire about less obvious health issues (like surgery) while you're on the topic and once she feels more comfortable. This is a two-way street of course, so if you open up about your health, it should only make it easier for her to do the same.