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Today, we’re serving up a healthy dose of reality to all the ladies who have ever stayed in a relationship way past its expiration date. What? You’re guilty of that, too?
In fact, the tendency is so common that writer Sara Barron has coined her own phrase: the “relationship draw-out.” Here is how she defines it: “Draw- out \‘dro\ \’aut\ n.: An event that prompts you, dear lady, to prolong a relationship you know you ought to end.”
Classic draw-out traps include Valentine’s Day (no one wants to be alone on the most putridly romantic day of the year); Christmas (you are still head over heels for his ridiculously expensive gifts) and urban real estate markets (the better the apartment, the harder to afford on one income).
And the funny (read: sad and pathetic) thing is, the longer we drag these half-dead relationships out, the harder they are to leave. Suddenly, any little event, like a root canal or split end, is proof that you can’t ditch your man now. After all, someone needs to hold your hand when you’re having a bad hair day.
Maybe what we need is a 12-step program for drawer-outers. Not only will you have a place to wallow in the difficulties of being newly single, but with so many others in the same fragile and lonely state as you, just think of the rebound hookups you could have! Then again, if you’re anything like me, that might just lead to another long-term relationship that you won't know how to get out of.