Visualization for Bonding with Your Baby
This exercise can help you to gain perspective and get in touch with any past blockages that keep you from enjoyment of your baby. In a journal, write down what, if anything, was missing from your own early experience of being mothered.
Take time to identify feelings that might come up for your during the postpartum period. Visualize yourself as a baby, getting whatever it is that you needed. More holding, more secure cuddles, kisses on the cheek, being talked to softly -- absorb these images fully. You may want to include your partner -- even have him hold you in his arms- or share the exercise with a friend who can nurture and comfort you.
Then, after you have taken these moments for yourself, imagine your baby smiling up at you- looking cute and cuddly -- and feel your love for your own child, growing with time, as your learn to love and care for this baby, too: getting to know each other, laughter and tears bonding you together now. You are remembering that time passes, seeing your child grow in your mind's inner eye -- to three years, seven years, ten years, then to teenage years, sixteen years, eighteen years ... to adulthood. A time of sharing seems so long but as you adjust to your baby, you will be amazed at how fast babies grow and how soon you will be watching yours leave home. . . to continue the cycle of life.
By gaining a perspective on your own childhood, with the help of a support group, a family counselor, or a friend, you can find what will help you nourish both yourself and your baby at the same time. Do not ignore these needs. If you get help now, your enjoyment of parenting will greatly increase. You deserve to enjoy your baby!