Within the first year after birth, most mothers experience complete adjustment to the new family constellation. Postpartum blues usually resolve within three months after delivery. Occasionally women experience severe depression, which must be professionally treated. Get whatever help you need. How you respond to your own needs and those of other family members forms the foundation for your family relationships.
Bonding after an Emergency Delivery
When babies have been separated from their mothers and fathers after birth due to medical intervention or other complications, they are sometimes extra sensitive to noise, strangers, or sudden changes in the environment. For days or weeks following birth these babies may be more irritable and fussy. They may be reacting to early deprivation.
These babies, as well as their mothers, may need special attention and loving care. In my work with women and their babies, I have discovered that emotional separation after birth, especially for a prolonged period, may trap both mother and baby in a loop of negative feedback. I believe that in such cases both mother and baby are in some way reliving the birth experience, unable to resolve the pain of early separation. When this is the case, simply taking time to heal the experience through visualization while the mother holds her baby, can calm them both. It can also create a positive change in their relationship. The following case illustrates the problem of oversensitivity resulting from emergency procedures at birth, and one way it can be resolved.