Having an Affair: Advice on Cheating and Marriage

Wish We'd Known: 20 Things No One Told Us About Having an Affair

Ever thought about cheating on your man? (C'mon, not even once?) If you have, trust us -- it's normal. But read this before you consider doing anything more than just fantasizing (21 Photos)

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20 Things No One Told Us About Having an Affair

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a -iVillage on Aug 3, 2012 at 3:19PM

The hottie at the gym. Your sweet coworker. The UPS guy. Nearly all women fantasize about cheating at some point in their relationship, but only a fraction of those women actually go through with it. We talked to women who did: Before you even think about having an affair, here are 20 things they wish they'd known.

It Probably Started Out "Innocently"
Unless you were married to a total jerk and spent every free hour on Ashley Madison looking for an extramarital bedmate, chances are you didn't set out to cheat. Maybe you were bored and lonely, or just vaguely unsatisfied. Perhaps you "reconnected" on Facebook, forged a friendship at work or started flirting with a friend. At some point, the line between right and wrong got blurry...but in hindsight, all of the signs were there.