No Time for Losers: 10 Questions to Ask to Avoid the Setup from Hell

Sometimes a friend can be so into playing cupid that she forgets your needs. Be sure to ask the following questions to avoid getting paired with a man that's just downright "really?!" (11 Photos)

Ronnie Koenig on Apr 16, 2012 at 5:51PM

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No Time for Losers: 10 Questions to Ask to Avoid the Setup from Hell

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Is He Really "Looking"?

Many times a well-meaning friend knows a guy who’d be so great for you, but then the guy never follows through or says he’s not interested in a long-term relationship.

“Examine your friend’s motivation for wanting to set you up,” suggests Jonathan Alpert, a New York City-based psychotherapist and author of Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days. “Is she looking to satisfy something within herself or does she truly feel you would get along with her friend? It’s not uncommon for a friend to have rescue fantasies or want to be the one that’s responsible for finally finding you love,” he says.

Make sure that your friend’s pick is someone who is actually on the market -- and ready and willing to ask you out! She very well may have never checked to see if he was really available.

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