He won't let go of his ex
I met Nick four months after he'd broken off his engagement. He swore it was over with his ex; he just needed to take things slow. That's why when I won a trip for two to Barbados, I didn't want to pressure him to go, but he jumped at the chance. At the airport, I noticed he was suddenly wearing this big emerald ring. I asked him what it was; he said it was a ring his ex had given him for their engagement. He hadn't wanted to leave it in his apartment unguarded. Well, we went to Bermuda and he wore the ring the whole time! (It cut into me when we made love!) Couldn't he leave it in the hotel's safe deposit box? I felt angry and depressed the entire weekend. My question: we've been back a week and he hasn't called yet. Is he mad at me? Should I call?
I want to pose a question. Isn't it odd that people can get life insurance, health insurance, fire, theft, and auto insurance, but someone like you -- someone so unbelievably, certifiably vulnerable -- needs protection against unscrupulous lovers?
Don't pick up the phone. Don't give that selfish sadist the satisfaction of seeing how low you can go. You've heard the drill on Oprah and Ricki: You know that your obsession has little to do with Nick and everything to do with how unworthy you feel of love.
Get a grip. Here's a secret not enough people learn in their lifetime: Being in love does not mean being in pain. It's possible to find happiness with someone who respects you and treats you well. Notice I didn't say likely, just possible. But at least it's something to strive for.
Regards to Nick.