He's handsome, fun, smart and ...oh-so-married

Dear Sherry:

I have recently started a friendship with extremely attractive, smart, fun and sensual married man. I know this is wrong, everything about it is wrong, but it feels right. I get along really well with him and have a strong desire to get involved with him. We have the right chemistry, and I literally feel like melting when he touches me. At this point in time I am enjoying my freedom and like having lots of male attention, so maybe this relationship is not so detrimental. My only concern is about getting hurt, which always seems to happen to the "other woman." Any thoughts?



Sherry Amatenstein

Sherry is the author of The Q&A Dating Book and Love Lessons from Bad Breakups. She has taught dating seminars, appeared as an expert... Read more

Dear Seduce:

"Apple Pie and whipped cream"; "french fries and ketchup"; "horse and carriage"; "married man and heartbreak." Those are things that inevitably belong together.

Get involved with someone who belongs to another woman and suddenly that much-vaunted freedom will feel like a yoke. You'll have too much of it because he'll never have enough time for you, and you'll never be able to make demands on him. You offered a chemistry lesson. Now try this simple emotional equation: the less a man is available, the more you'll want him.

My advice? Don't sleep with him. My hunch? No one hell-bent on sleeping with a man who is "forbidden fruit" abstains just because an advice columnist said "Don't do it." I won't say I told you so. Just hold onto your heart. It's going to be a bumpy ride.

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