Okay, so maybe you weren’t the kind of couple who went at it constantly -- but at least you had the option. When there’s a new baby involved, sex is more often negotiated and re-negotiated, planned and then, often, canceled. Early on, intercourse may be just too physically painful. Don’t rush it -- your husband should understand. Then, exhaustion and lack of time can kill libido for both of you. Sure, you can have impulsive quickies during baby’s nap time, but often, if you don’t put sex on the calendar, it just doesn’t happen. So, put it on the calendar!