She's your BFF every six to eight weeks. You've been with her for years, she's been with you through the best of times, through the worst of times, through the frizz, split ends, highlights, new jobs, new homes and life's overall ups and downs. But let's 'fess up: her sheers have lost that sizzle and you've been postponing that great hairdresser breakup for way too long. Although it's certainly a sensitive topic as loyalty intersects with your looks, breaking up doesn't always have to be hard to do.
"We Need to Talk"
When it comes to having the inevitable conversation, Philip Carreon, celebrity hairstylist and consulting hairstylist for Garnier on Project Runway and owner of Estilo Salon in Los Angeles, notes it's important to give your stylist a heads up, no pun intended. "Leave them a message ahead of time that says, 'We need to talk' so they're in the mode." This way, they know something's up and they won't be defensive. Simply leaving a message with the receptionist will suffice so your hairdresser can be prepared for your talk.
Short and Sweet
According to Jodyne Speyer, author of Dump 'Em: How to Break Up With Anyone From Your Best Friend to Your Hairdresser (HarperCollins, 2009), having a conversation with your hairdresser is the right thing to do but so is keeping it short. Her advice? "Don't over explain. Say that it's not going to work out, I'm so sorry, best of luck to you." In addition, experts recommend speaking in private so other stylists and clients can't eavesdrop. After all, you may want to the hairdresser in the next chair to become your new stylist!
The Truth Shall Set You Free
Cindy Ostroff of the San Francisco area had been with her hairdresser for about eight years and due to the loyalty factor, she didn't know what to do yet definitely knew she needed to update her look. After trying out a new stylist courtesy of the recommendation of a friend, the stylish new 'do worked and thus confirmed it was time to say adios. After an honest conversation with her stylist simply explaining it was time to move on, Ostroff notes, "She said it was great I called. After all, she is a human being."