Don't Sweat It
Although Ostroff was stressed out about having the inevitable convo with her former stylist, Carreon reminds us that variety is the spice of life and change is sometimes inevitable. "Be straightforward in a friendly, nice way especially if you've been going to the stylist for a long time." In fact, break-ups happen all the time and they're destined to occur when there are a variety of salons and countless options out there. "It happens to all of us," he says.
Let's face it: the great hairdresser break-up can be a sensitive topic. It was for Elaine Spitz of the Boston area since her stylist was a family member of a close friend. "Tender loving care was required on this one," she says. Since her job situation changed, it wasn't possible for Spitz to continue with the 7:30 a.m. time slot that was allotted for her every fourth Thursday of the month. Her solution? "I thanked 'Jane' for her many years of service and friendship, nothing that I knew she would understand. It worked out well and when I see her in a social setting we are friendly."
Blame It On the Economy
As you're having the conversation and perhaps finding a hard time mustering up the words, "This is a difficult conversation to have but I'm moving on," you may want to do what Karin Pellmann did of New York City: she factored the dollar sign into the equation. "My days of $300 cut and colors were over for me last summer but it took a crumbling job market to force my mouth to open," she admits. While she's back on her feet after losing her job, at the time she told him it just wasn't feasible to continue seeing him until she could get her bearings again.
Give a Warning Period
Not quite ready to cut ties with your hairdresser but definitely not pleased on the new coif either? It may be time to communicate with them and let them know they'll only get one more chance at styling your 'do. "In any relationship, do what you can to try to make it work before you exit stage left," says Carreon. Speyer adds, "Allow them to self-correct." For instance, if you're trying to grow your hair out and you're consistently getting a shorter cut, give them a warning and tell them. "If you can't do that, I'll need to go to someone else next time."