How Can I Get My Man in the Mood?

Q: Is there anything that I can do to get my boyfriend in the mood for sex? I'm beginning to get frustrated.

A: The "honey I've got a headache" line sounds awfully odd coming out of his mouth. But hey, men aren't sexual robots (as you've found out), even if we sometimes think of them that way. There are lots of reasons your partner's desire might be dampened right now. Fatigue is often to blame. Is he trying desperately hard to establish a career with not much energy left over for anything else? Working long hours (or partying too hard with too many drinks and ciggies) can mean sex is the last thing he feels like when his head hits the pillow. Is he on any medication? That could also be responsible.

If it does seem to be related to stress, help de-stress his life by scheduling some pampering time. Give him neck and back massages and stroke all his stress away. Whatever you do, don't panic and think it's your fault. I'd resist the urge to jolt him out of it by tying yourself naked to the hood of his car. He'll feel like a complete failure if you have to go to those extremes. Instead, initiate lots of quick sex sessions. If he's tired, he'll be much more interested in a quickie than in marathon sex. Every sex session doesn't need to last an hour. Good luck with all this -- hope it helps.

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