When people say they fell out of love with their partner but weren't sure why, it's usually because they weren't having fun. And you need to have fun to stay in love. Otherwise, what's the point? I definitely don't recommend taking separate vacations -- that's the last thing you need. What you do need is a holiday together, where you focus on each other, put a lot of energy into doing great things, a lot of thought into your sex life, and, away from the pressures of everyday life, rediscover what you loved about each other in the first place. Taking time out away from each other will do the opposite. One of you might start flirting with someone else, and because they're new, they'll seem infinitely more interesting (simply because they're undiscovered). And comparing a new flirtation to old, settled love like yours is rather like comparing a pair of brand-new stiletto heels to comfy old slippers.
It sounds to me as if you have a strong foundation for a great relationship but have just stopped making enough effort, and you're both, quite simply, bored. Hence the weight gain -- you're probably snacking to add a bit of excitement to the day. But forget about the extra pounds (and I bet it's about two ounces -- it usually is) and instead focus on your relationship.
There's loads of stuff in Hot Sex to try on your holiday and lots of things in Hot Relationships to make both of you feel special. Really, though, it's not so much about specifics as about putting the energy back into each other that you did in the beginning. It will seem like an effort at the start -- because you know each other so well, it seems pointless. But if you do it and start making each other feel special again, some of that magic will come back. Promise! Let me know how you do, and don't you dare go on separate holidays.
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