It's 9pm and you plop down on your bed from exhaustion. As you think back on your day, images of shoving the kids off to school, meetings with co-workers and vague conversations with your family and friends flash through your head. You think, all I want to do is spend a quiet, romantic evening with my mate. So you walk into the living room with visions of romance and candlelight in your head, but, instead, find your husband hypnotized by Monday Night Football and your kids finger-painting with their toes on the kitchen floor.
This is not the type of quality time you envisioned. What are your options?
iVillager 1suz figured out a way to fit in quality time with her fiance and her daughter: "Tonight, my fiance and I carved a pumpkin together and lit a candle inside it. We then turned off the light and sat around the living room and told ghost stories to my daughter, before putting her to bed. It was actually pretty fun!"
If you can't see dragging your mate away from a COPS rerun or CNN to carve pumpkins, read on and see what other iVillage members suggest. And, men, put down that remote control and get ready for some good ol' fashioned lovin'!
Date Your Mate
"Find a sitter and go out on a date. Don't just go out for dinner, go out dancing or somewhere exciting and act like teenagers again!" --twnrebel2
Put Each Other First
"Have similar priorities in life. Work and career should be important but not as important as your relationship. Be selective as to the events and dinners you accept from other people. These events can fill up your calendar and take away from your couple time alone." -- Passion8
Create a Special Night of Passion
"Make a special night of the week called 'Your Time.' Put the kids to bed early, plan an enticing entree and decorate the living room, bedroom and bathroom with candles. After dinner, refill your wineglasses and venture off into a bubble bath together. Lastly, play your wedding song and dance naked together in your living room and follow your hearts from there. Next week: same time, same place, but this time it's HIS turn!" --spanky9
Discover Cyber Connections
"Surprise your mate and send a thank-you card via email just to tell him how much you love him. For example, my husband is a very busy man and all he talks to me about is work. But one day he surprised me and sent me an email telling me how much he loved me. We then started to discuss life, feelings, politics, future and our plans together via email!" -- janiceiting
Surprise Him with Sex Appeal
"If he works late, set your clock 30 minutes before he gets home, one night a week. Wait up for him and greet him at the door with nothing but a robe on." --TWNTexas_Gal
Get Your Hearts Pumping Together
"Have a gym near you? Try to make a point to work out together at least once a week." --1suz
As member 1suz goes on to say, "We learned early on in our relationship how valuable our time is together. We are not promised tomorrow so we try to cherish the moments we have together."