How to Delay His Orgasm
My husband ejaculates before I reach my peak. I have heard that there are over-the-counter desensitizing creams that can help this. Can you give us the names of some of them and how they work? Are they safe? I would greatly appreciate any help you can give us. -- R
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Dear R:
What a lovely way to ask a delicate question. Your love for your partner shows through your concern. I applaud you both for looking for a solution rather than remaining stuck in the problem.
When a man comes too quickly for his lover's pattern, there can be more than one cause. Perhaps he is getting overly excited before your arousal really starts to take off. I suggest that you get a jump start on your being turned on before he tries to engage in any penetrative activities with you.
There are many remedies for early ejaculation. Of course, if YOU are having a delayed orgasm reaction, then all the help in the world for him won't get you to your finish line. So make sure that you are getting ample clitoral stimulation and any other type of sexual touching that you require for your release.
Now, for men who are overly excited and explode before curtain time, those creams you mention are a good way to go. They succeed in slowing down the sexual release by dulling the sensations. They contain a mild topical anesthetic, not unlike the numbing medications that a dentist might use to put your tooth to sleep. These creams work well to quell the excitement that is stimulated by physical touching of his penis. There are several in the marketplace that I can recommend; Mandelay and Stay Hard creams are well-known brand names. Unless he is coming too fast for other reasons, this might be a good option.
Be forewarned that some men will not like to put an unnatural creamy substance on their most private and sensitive parts. Tell him to be careful NOT to apply it directly into the urethral opening. Finally, if that does not help you both in achieving the desired effect, write to me again. Perhaps it's time to consider something more strong and lasting, such as penile injection or pellet methods, Viagra, or a natural alternative to prescription medications. Good luck!
