How Do I Get Custody of My Child(ren)? Divorce Information from Divorce Source on

  1. The child(ren)'s wishes.
  2. The current residence of the child(ren) and the overall effects of changing the residence.
  3. The relationship between the parents and the child(ren).
  4. The care or concern delivered by each parent.
  5. The emotional and financial stability.
  6. Amount of time each parent can spend with the child(ren).
  7. How each parent treats one another.

The above principles are stated to give you an overall idea of things that will influence custody decisions. There are many more issues that are addressed in court that will aid in making the decision that is in the "best interest of the child(ren)."

You and your spouse should try to amicably decide the custody arrangements of the child(ren) and what the visitation schedule should be without the help of the court. If you spend the time discussing the issue, with the child(ren)'s best interest in mind, hopefully you both will be able to arrive at a custody arrangement that is superior than that which the court would initiate.

If you are in a situation that an agreement may not or can not be made, be prepared to let the court decide. You will hear this time and time again..."when the court decides you bring in the element of surprise."

When you are in a custody dispute and the court is going to decide what the custody arrangement will be there are a few principles they use for the basis of the decision. You need to take a look at these principles and evaluate your relative position and determine your strengths and weaknesses as a custodial parent and those of the other parent.

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