How Do Men Get Over Breakups?

Insights that explain your ex's behavior, and break up tactics you can use too!

 [Editor's note: Why does it always seem like women mourn relationships for weeks while men just pick themselves up, brush themselves off and move on? Well, it turns out that's not the case after all. In fact, when it comes to breaking up, men get just as bent out of shape as we do. So check out this article from for the secrets of male post-breakup behavior. And while you're at it, use these time-tested guy tricks to get over your own heartbreak faster!]

Your sweetie ended it, that heartless girl. Now your future is in shambles. You feel the need to panic and beg for her back. You'll do anything to make things right. But no matter how you try, you can't get back to that little spot of sunlight where you were so comfortable and safe. There's only one thing left for you to do: Forget her. I know it's not as easy as it sounds, but with this blueprint, you'll forget that girl and pick up the pieces of your shattered heart -- and manhood -- in no time.

1. Take her off that pedestal
Don't idolize her and build her up into something great. Don't gaze lovingly at pictures of her. Don't jump to answer her email or phone calls. And definitely don't go out of your way for her. She no longer deserves preferential treatment.

2. Get closure
It's essential to definitively end any hopes of reconciliation between the two of you. And if you can't get that into your head, she owes you the courtesy of conveying it crystal clear. She needs to tell you: "I never loved you. I don't love you now. We'll never get back together." After some prodding, she'll probably do it, just to get rid of you. It provides what therapists call "closure." And you can begin to heal.

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