If you've recently become separated, you can probably empathize with either Karen's or Frank's feelings
In his tremendously helpful book, Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends, Dr. Bruce Fisher identifies 19 stages that we must experience to completely heal from the loss of a love. These stages are: Denial, Fear, Adaptation, Loneliness, Friendship, Guilt/Rejection, Grief, Anger, Letting Go, Self-Worth, Transition, Openness, Love, Trust, Relatedness, Sexuality, Singleness, Purpose, and Freedom. Dr. Fisher uses the metaphor of climbing a mountain to symbolize this 19-step healing process. Although this process is terribly difficult, he notes, "The rewards at the end make the tough climb worthwhile."
If you're wondering how long it will take you to fully recover from the end of your relationship, Dr. Fisher's studies indicate that: "On average, it takes about a year to get up above the treeline (past the really painful, negative stages of the climb), longer to reach the top. Some research suggests that a few in the climbing party will need as long as three to five years. Don't let that discourage you," he cautions. "Finishing the climb is what counts, not how long it takes."