Men don't have bad hair days. We have bad haircuts, which means we have bad hair months. The first thing to do if your father or husband or boyfriend needs a style makeover is to get him to a good hairstylist who can cut and style his hair based on his hair type and face. Spend the money for the right cut and he can use his fingers and a comb to style it, and he'll look great every day. Other advice you can tell your style-starved man:
- Gray hair will make you look older. But if you color it, make sure the colorist matches your hair exactly. If your hair is oxidized, or lightened, your hair could turn orange, or at least it will look like you have dyed your hair.
- Many men have to deal with some type of male pattern baldness and need to get a haircut that works with balding areas. Even if your head is completely covered, your hair may not be the same density all around. For example, men with thinning hair on top sometimes let their hair grow long on the sides to compensate. That will give you a Bozo look. To avoid that, your stylist should cut the hair on the side close to your head.
- If your hair is balding in spots, don't grow the hair around it to compensate. Longer hair only accentuates baldness. Have your hair cut close all around to de-emphasize the bald area.
- By the same token, get away from the comb-over. You can't hide a bald spot. Either get a buzz cut, or if that's too extreme for you — get a closer cropped look. You don't want to look like you are trying to camouflage bald skin — that's the biggest faux pas a man can make.
- Don't allow yourself to get stuck on a style. I always tell women: Cross over! If you have the exact same hair you had ten years ago, you have to reevaluate and have someone look at you again fresh. Worse, if you still look like you did at high school or college graduation, it's time to rethink the way you look. Let the dead dog die.
- Go to a salon where you can find someone you trust. If you feel self-conscious, get an early-morning appointment and the salon will be empty. (Note to women: If your man resists going to a salon versus a barber, get him a gift certificate!)
- Facial hair for men is an issue, and you can talk to your stylist about it. My advice is: Groom it or lose it! You don't want to walk around looking like a lumberjack. You want to have facial hair that works with shape of your face, perhaps covering a sloppy chin. Ask yourself, "Do I need it?" Or is it something you're just holding on to.
- Products are key with fellows, because men don't use blow dryers or curling irons. I recommend either a molding cream or a very light gel, depending on the hairstyle. Today's hair is softer and cleaner. Nobody wants to look like a guy from a boy band, with lots of spiky hair sticking up that requires excessive products.
- Finally, don't overdo it! You don't want your man to be over-groomed. When a fellow is excessively groomed, it looks like he's trying too hard and that's terribly unsexy. And every guy knows that.