How Men Try to Get You to Dump Your Boyfriend

Editor's note: Is your guy friend really just a friend? Are you sure he isn't waiting on the sidelines for the chance to pounce? It's easy to tell! Check out the sneaky tricks guys use to break up your relationship.

Become Her Confidant

One of the first things you need to do is make a place for yourself in her life; you can't just be the guy she works with or her neighbor. Find common ground and establish some flirtation without directly coming on to her. Without being too obvious, steer the conversation toward problems in her relationship. But bear in mind that you can only chip at cracks that are already there — get her to reveal their problems rather than listing what you think are his major flaws.

The main sources of arguments are money, sex, work, housework and children — although if you want to break up a family rather than just a couple, maybe you should think long and hard about the whole affair. Bring up one of these and there will surely be something that she is desperate to vent about. These problems may seem minor, but they are often indications of deeper, more serious issues. A small itch about housework could really be about respect, money arguments could be about power and responsibility in the relationship, and sex issues might have to do with love and the need for intimacy. Keep subtly bringing these to the surface to remind her just how unhappy she is. Mix in your concern about other issues that are seemingly unrelated to him — this will build up your intimacy. However, avoid finding yourself in the friend zone. Keep the flirting going and make sure that you are a man in her mind, not another girlfriend she can moan to about men.

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