How to Pick Your Battles and Not Kill Your Guy During the Holidays

The turkey? Burning. Parents? Nagging. Every relationship is filled with arguments and almost-arguments -- but never more so than during the holidays. Here's a guide to how to pick your battles with your beloved (11 Photos)

Jennifer Berg on Nov 19, 2012 at 5:41PM

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How to Pick Your Battles and Not Kill Your Guy During the Holidays

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Is It Worth It?

“There’s value in working through conflict as a couple.” says Rachel Kleinman, an expert partner at YourTango. “There is also value in asserting your needs and desires in a relationship.” Just be careful of how often, and how forcefully, you make those needs known.

“The most successful relationships are ones where the parties have developed effective strategies for resolving conflict, yet avoid it as much as possible,” Kleinman says. “High-conflict couples rarely last. So, unless something is really important to you -- that is, unless it speaks to your core values or your identity -- consider letting it slide.”

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