How to Pick Your Battles and Not Kill Your Guy During the Holidays

The turkey? Burning. Parents? Nagging. Every relationship is filled with arguments and almost-arguments -- but never more so than during the holidays. Here's a guide to how to pick your battles with your beloved (11 Photos)

Jennifer Berg on Nov 19, 2012 at 5:41PM

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How to Pick Your Battles and Not Kill Your Guy During the Holidays

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Think About What's Really Bugging You

So you flipped out on him for loading the dishwasher incorrectly. Chances are, clean cereal bowls don’t mean that much to you. “We humans tend to smuggle our unexpressed feelings about past events into current ones,” Relationship coach Annie Lalla says. “Watch for smuggles in yourself. When we battle over one thing that isn’t the real pain point, our partners can’t connect our feelings to the actual painful behavior. Discuss what’s actually hurting you, not a politically correct cover story.”

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