Sex isn't about the destination; it's about the means of traveling. Well, that's a lovely sentiment, but if it takes five buses, two trains and a plane to arrive at Destination Orgasm, the journey can get a tad tedious! That's why I want to teach you the way to Destination Faster Orgasms instead. Men rarely have problems reaching orgasm. Women usually do. The good news is, there's a lot you can do to speed up your orgasms:
Prime yourself for sex by turning yourself on beforehand.
Even if you're out to dinner with friends, while he's talking, think about what that tongue will do to you later, how much you'd rather his fingers be inside you than wrapped around that beer glass, you get the picture.
Do your Kegel exercises.
Several factors seem to influence whether women have both multiple and vaginal orgasms (as opposed to clitoral orgasms which are more common): You can't control the sensitivity of your G spot and other internal spot. But you can strengthen your PC muscles by doing your Kegel exercises. Also, be sure you're being flexible when it comes to trying different stimulation and orgasm triggers. In other words, when one technique brings you to orgasm quickly, make a note of what worked so you can try it again!
Match your foreplay to your mood.
If you're feeling really horny, odds are good that you'll want to hastily apply some lubricant and get him to penetrate with no foreplay at all. If you're feeling only so-so sexy, lots of oral sex might be necessary to get you anywhere close to orgasm.
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