How you breathe is important, though not all experts agree on the best method! Some say that holding your breath when you orgasm heightens the sensation. Others say that holding your breath forces oxygen-giving blood to flow toward your brain and away from your genitals. Continuing to breathe deeply through orgasm is recommended by spiritual sex devotees who claim deep breathing makes it more likely for you to have a second one. While yet more experts say if you want to feel your orgasm over a wider area, start with regular deep breaths and then start panting just before orgasm. Who's right? It's about what works for you, so give them all a try!
Pay attention to what your body does just before orgasm.
Knowing your orgasm triggers is incredibly helpful because, the more your brain travels a certain path neurologically, the more effortless it becomes. The more signposts of impending orgasm your brain can recognize, the easier it will trigger the orgasmic response. Focus on what you naturally do on approach to orgasm, then exaggerate it. If you go quiet and hold your breath, try doing that the next time you're about to climax (though possibly not for terribly long!). If you notice you tense your toes, do that. Get to the point where your brain thinks, Aha! She's holding her breath and flexing her toes, which means she wants to orgasm. Better get cracking then and make it happen! And don't forget to make noise. It sounds and feels sexy, and a sexy environment can be very persuasive to your body.
Give up on worrying about wobbly bits.
If your partner isn't someone you can let go with—without fear of criticism!—they're not the right choice of partner for you in—or out—of the bedroom.