Okay, I admit it: We men need your help to please you sexually. Truth is, without a woman's guidance, we men tend to stay diamonds in the rough forever. Some men boast about already being ''trained,'' but what they mean is that they've been able to pleasure other women in the past (or so they think) and, therefore, they're confident they know what pleases you, too.
But how exactly do you go about getting what you want from your lover? After all, with our delicate egos
Before we go any further, you need to first accept that training men to understand your desires is your responsibility. The longer you resist this fact, the longer it will take you to attain sexual satisfaction. Now that you understand that it's up to you to inspire the best lovemaking and romancing from your partner, here's the ironic part: Once men experience a little success, we tend to take all the credit for it. My advice
As you follow this workshop, be sure to go in order, and don't omit any of the steps. You'll find that the steps for retraining your lover can be used outside the bedroom as well. In fact, these workshop strategies can help you get what you want and need in other areas of your personal life.
Okay, you're ready to start. What's the first step? Getting his attention, of course. Attention is that connection between the two of you that you can feel
Next page: When's the best time to grab his attention? Find out.
Resorting to basic biology, the best way to get his attention for your sexual wishes (and other things too, by the way) may be when you are both naked in bed. But there may be better times, too, depending on your partner. Is he more receptive earlier in the day? Fresher right after his workout? Watch for his most receptive times and avoid those times when he's apt to be distracted or not as open to listening to you.
Keep in mind that you can grab his attention in person or when the two of you are apart. For example, would you capture his attention if he found your lace panties in his briefcase or suitcase? How would he react to a sensual bubble bath? Remember in Pretty Woman when Julia Roberts greets Richard Gere with nothing on but his new necktie? It's time to get creative! Perhaps you'd like to offer him an evening of pleasure with no obligation to give back to you. If that sounds contrary to what you're trying to accomplish, remember that ''give what you want to get'' is a timeless tip for getting whatever it is you want more of.
Practice getting and holding his attention for any and all of your desires
For this lesson, keep it short and sweet and often
Your other critical ''assignment'' is to ponder what exactly it is you do want for a happy life, especially your sex life. For many women, expressing what you really want is very difficult. Likewise, it's important that you feel deserving enough not to settle until you succeed. So, please, invest in yourself and consider what you really, really, really want from a man. Don't stop thinking until you have a thorough list (if you change it along the way, that's okay).
The next step in retraining your lover