How to Retrain Your Lover

Step 2: Get His Attention

Okay, I admit it: We men need your help to please you sexually. Truth is, without a woman's guidance, we men tend to stay diamonds in the rough forever. Some men boast about already being ''trained,'' but what they mean is that they've been able to pleasure other women in the past (or so they think) and, therefore, they're confident they know what pleases you, too.

But how exactly do you go about getting what you want from your lover? After all, with our delicate egos -- especially when it comes to bedroom ''sports'' -- training your man can seem like a job too formidable for even the bravest, most assertive woman to accomplish in a lifetime. Never fear. This workshop will help you get the best and the most from any lover -- long-term or short-term -- with ease and confidence.

Before we go any further, you need to first accept that training men to understand your desires is your responsibility. The longer you resist this fact, the longer it will take you to attain sexual satisfaction. Now that you understand that it's up to you to inspire the best lovemaking and romancing from your partner, here's the ironic part: Once men experience a little success, we tend to take all the credit for it. My advice -- let us! As long as you're getting what you want and need, who cares whose idea it was? You'll get a lot more loving by letting us be heroes with ''our'' ideas!

As you follow this workshop, be sure to go in order, and don't omit any of the steps. You'll find that the steps for retraining your lover can be used outside the bedroom as well. In fact, these workshop strategies can help you get what you want and need in other areas of your personal life.

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