How to Slow Your Guy Down in the Sack

Squash any minute-man moments with these sex tricks, techniques and tips (17 Photos)

Kimberly Dawn Neumann on Jul 13, 2012 at 2:54PM

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How to Slow Your Guy Down in the Sack

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Help Him Relax

Trust us, no male wants to be labeled the one minute man! But, oftentimes, just the stress of trying to perform can push a guy into ending a sexual encounter prematurely. “Pressure and pleasure don’t mix and pressure generally wins out, especially in the bedroom,” says Joel D. Block, PhD, a psychologist/sex therapist and author of the e-book Men: Last Longer, Extend the Pleasure. “Lots of men who struggle with a quick orgasmic response get anxious before a sexual encounter, which ends up making it worse -- they either have difficulty with an erection or get an erection and climax even faster -- as everything tends to speed up with anxiety.” Therefore, one of the first things a woman can do to help slow down her man is to reassure him that she doesn’t expect him to be a super stud in the sack by throwing him comments like “I just love being close to you” or “You look so hot naked.” Anything to let him know that you’re not just there because of his penis will help put his focus where it should be -- on the experience and not his performance.

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