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Dropping hints about what you want can come off as too obvious -- and obnoxious! Instead, follow these tips for letting your man know what’s really on your wish list.
A sly way to get what you want is to compliment someone. "You are so good at..." or "I am so jealous of your..." are good ones to try. If you're lucky, he might just get you one for yourself.
Advertisers use sex to sell us their products all the time, so why not put your powers of subliminal seduction to use with your mate? Mention how having the item you want will benefit him -- for example, new lingerie that he gets to see you in, or how stimulated you'll be after a massage -- and he’s sure to get the message.
Play show and tell
Sometimes hints work better when they are as obvious as a 40-foot tall neon sign. Show him the item you want -- leave the catalogs out or point it out in a store window. He may be relieved that he doesn’t have to come up with something sentimental and you get what you really want.
“Some men see gift-giving as an obligation and actually can be quite clueless about what to buy,” says Irene S. Levine, Psychologist and Friendship Expert, Producer of TheFriendshipBlog.com. “Your husband, partner or lover may appreciate getting you something you really want.”
Talk up his gift
Tell him you’ve been working on his present for weeks and that you can’t wait to see him open it! Most guys are quick enough to realize that means they need to get their ass in gear.
“People generally like to reciprocate. No one wants to give someone a token gift when they are receiving something of great value,” says Levine. “Similarly, if you are buying something romantic, like a special fragrance or cashmere sweater, your guy will be embarrassed if he shows up on Christmas Day with a kitchen appliance.”
Talk about yourself
It’s easy to shop for someone who has a specific interest, or who collects a certain item. You just need to make it known what your interests are -- yes, there is a very high possibility that your beloved boo actually doesn’t know. Love books? Tell them about the new author whose work you’re reading. Movie buff? Talk about all the movies you can’t wait to see. If you’re known as the girl who loves high-end handbags...well, you might not receive one but you never know!
Be your own Secret Santa
If you’re still worried that all this hinting is too subtle, shop for yourself! Save up and splurge on the one thing you really, really want so that there’s less pressure on the people who will give you gifts. Besides, it’s easier to be gracious and say, “it’s the thought that counts” when you’re not waiting for someone else to guess what’s at the top of your wish list!