How to Write a Love Letter

Why Bother?

Sure, love letters seem a little old-fashioned, but at the same time, they are so totally modern. Novels, plays, and poetry have been written solely around love letters. We all want to get one. We all want to have someone express his or her love for us so beautifully with words that we will hold onto those words, savor them, recall the feeling they evoke -- maybe even carry them to our final days.

It's true.

Tender words; passionate murmurs; soft, delicate sentiments might seem out of your orbit. What about flirtations, apologies, or "I want to talk to you" messages? They can and should be love letters, too.

So few of us make use of our ability to write our feelings down. We're afraid that those words will mock us one day or that our offering will not be returned or, worse, will be scorned.

Writing a love letter can seem terribly daunting: What if you feel as if you can't live up to what you write? What if you can't write as well as you can talk, or touch? Who has time to write a love letter, anyway? That's all a lot of baloney, but I've heard every one of those excuses from the fearful, timid, and lazy people who don't want to make the effort.

There may be nothing more important and honorable in your life than expressing your love (or like) for someone else. So don't pass up an opportunity to write a love letter.

1. No one expects you to be perfect (except maybe your parents).
2. Contracts can be oral, too -- and there's no legal action if your feelings change.
3. Anyone who has the bad taste to display your intimate messages in public comes off worse than you do.
4. It's not that hard to write a love letter and you're going to learn a lot more about it here.

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Excerpted from How to Write a Love Letter, © 2000 by Barrie Dolnick and Don Baack. Used with permission of Crown Publishers, a division of Random House, Inc.

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