I'm 47 With Four Beautiful Kids But I Seem To Have Lost Interest in Making Love. Is It Hormones? Could It Be Menopause?

I'm 47 But I Seem To Have Lost Interest In Making Love. Could It Be Menopause?

Madelyn Fernstrom, Ph.D.

Madelyn Fernstrom, Ph.D.

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Many mid-life women experience a general loss of interest in sex at mid-life. The reasons are varied, and range from biological to psychological explanations. Balancing life with four children keeps you very busy, and balancing time for personal intimacy and a close relationship with your partner with the needs of your children can be a challenge. Lack of sleep is another reason why interest can wane. If you’re always tired, you just want to sleep!

Hormonal changes occurring during perimenopause (the years leading up to menopause, meaning one year without periods) can contribute; dropping estrogen levels result in  vaginal dryness, often leading to painful and sensitive intercourse, which might be related. You don’t include the ages of your children, but you have another life chapter to look forward to. When you become an “empty nester”, coordinates for most women with menopause, often interest in sex is reinvigorated.  If the lifestyle tools don’t help – like “date night” with your partner and adequate sleep – pay a visit to your doctor to determine whether locally acting estrogen (like creams or a vaginal ring) or systemic estrogen is appropriate. Everyone is different, and the resolution must be personalized to your own physical and mental well-being.