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Here are some simple exercises to do that will help you feel more poised and confident at home and out in the world. Start by doing these exercises alone, then do them in front of your partner, a friend, or a family member with whom you feel comfortable. Even your pet will do!
First, walk around your bedroom or living room while moving your arms all around. Reach to the sides, swing them above your head and so on. Let your body take over the entire space; tell yourself that you own the room. The idea is to "occupy the territory," like in the early days of hunters and gatherers. If you're in the mood, put on your favorite music and dance. Try some salsa dancing. Nothing is sexier! If you're feeling especially daring, take off all of your clothes and move around naked. When the space feels completely yours, move on to the next exercise.
This exercise will help you develop more poise and confidence. Naturally, when you feel poised and confident, you also look this way. Stand opposite a full-length mirror, as far away from the mirror as you can get. Relax your body and breathe deeply for a few minutes. Watch your posture and make sure you are standing very straight, with your shoulders down and relaxed and your feet planted firmly. Imagine your upper body being pulled toward the ceiling by invisible strings while your feet and legs are pulled toward the floor.