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Week 2: Dress to Be Undressed

If you did your internal work last week, you should now be ready to start working on your physical appearance. Specifically, it's time to take a look at your wardrobe. Feeling good in the clothes that you wear is a key component of increasing your sex appeal.

Go to your closet and drawers and examine your clothes. Which items make you feel happy and desirable? If you are holding onto items that carry sad memories, now is the time to give them to a charity. Also, stay away from clothes that feel too tight and uncomfortable, and from colors that distract from the essence of who you are. You want your clothes to frame you, not to steal attention away from you.

Run your fingers over the fabrics in your closet and pick out the items made of silk, velvet and other pleasing materials.

Consider the clothes you want to be seen in (versus those you want to be touched in -- we'll get to that later). When you are dressing to be seen, the look to shoot for is "sexy yet sober." In other words, don't wear anything too outrageous, unless you want to make a statement, have a particular agenda and trust the person you plan to share your evening with. While you want to look and feel appealing, you don't want to dress in a way that will inspire disrespect from others or send an unintentional and possibly dangerous message.

When you choose the clothes you want to be touched in, consider those garments that fit your figure and feel good to the touch. Run your fingers over the fabrics in your closet and pick out the items made of silk, velvet, mohair, cashmere, chenille, chiffon and other such pleasing materials.

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Although you should dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable with yourself and that suits your mood, you may also want to consider the taste of the person you are in a relationship with or someone you wish to attract. Men like to see women's shapes, or hints of what they may eventually touch underneath. Specifically, clothes that are soft and fluid and that move with your body tend to attract men most. Usually these types of clothes feel good on your body, too.

If you would like to set the scene for intimacy with the man in your life, there are certain ways to dress to achieve different affects. For example, if you want him to be in control (to "take you," so to speak -- with your consent, of course), dress innocently. Wear light colors and emphasize your vulnerable side. This will appeal to his dominant side. If you wish to project a strong, take-charge image yourself, you may want to wear something bolder, such as leather and latex. Even a classic black business suit with a touch of lace or silk underneath can do the trick. When dressing to be undressed (knowing that intimacy is on the agenda), wear something that makes him focus on the part that you want him to caress and reveal first. The placement of a zipper or buttons (in the front or back of your shirt, for example) may be all that's needed to show him the way.

Remember that sex appeal is not about how you look to others but about transmitting how you feel using your attire. Go ahead and wear nylon stockings and garters, or silk underwear if it's in your budget, even if no one will see it. And if you're feeling especially daring, go out in your favorite summer dress -- without any underwear! As long as you know you're wearing these items (or not wearing them!), that's what counts. This is crucial for making you feel sexy, and for exuding sex appeal. This style of dressing will fuel that glint in your eyes that says to those you want to attract, "I have a treasure, and some day you may find out what it is!"

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