increase your SEX appeal

Week 4: Interact to Attract

Whether you want to meet men or reignite the passion in your relationship, now is the time to go out and put to use all that you've learned in the past three weeks. The following exercises and directions will allow you to express your sex appeal and continue to increase your allure, whether you're out meeting men or seducing your partner.

Secrets to Successfully Meeting Men

  • Think about Sex
    When you are in the company of a man you want to meet, attract or excite, think about sex and how much you enjoy it. Don't express this enjoyment out loud. Thinking it will do the trick. Most men can tell if a woman enjoys sex by how she looks at him, speaks and moves. When you feel comfortable with your sexual side, you emanate sex appeal, often without even knowing it. Not only will this appeal to men, it will make you feel positive, sexy and strong.
  • Be Bold
    If you want to meet a new man, be daring in your approach. It's always better to be rejected than to feel bad because you didn't try. Approach 10 strangers and tell yourself ahead of time that you will fail 8 out of 10 times. Start with men you find attractive and who seem accessible. Hold off on approaching men who seem intimidating -- you can save them for after you've had some practice. When you see someone of interest, walk up to him and give him a compliment or say something that will intrigue him. For example, if you are at the theater or in an art gallery, tell him you noticed how caught up he was in the film, play or painting. Ask him what he was thinking, but don't be pushy. You want to seem free spirited when you approach him, not imposing. Most men will be flattered that you noticed them. If you want a man to make the first move, nothing works better than a brief look directly into his eyes. Look away, then smile a little so that he knows it's okay to approach you.

You should feel comfortable asking a man out at least half the time. When you are out on a date, offer to share the bill, or if he insists on paying, treat him the next time or get tickets for the theater and invite him to join you. The idea is to combine traditional feminine behavior (allowing the man to pay and so on) with independence and assertiveness. This combination is highly desirable.

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Secrets of Seduction

  • Set the Mood
    When you are ready to get intimate, make sure the atmosphere that surrounds you is to your liking. When you feel comfortable and sexy, your sex appeal will be irresistible. Choose a location that empowers and excites you. The bedroom should be low on the list, especially for married couples and unmarried couples who live together, since sex often becomes routine here. Pay attention to the lighting, too. Unless you are under 20 years of age with a perfect body, stay away from fluorescent lights! Instead, make sure the lighting is soft, or light candles. Don't turn out all the lights -- you want to be able to look deeply into each other's eyes.
  • Increase His Excitement
    It's no secret that the more a man wants you, the more he will be aroused. Let his desire for you build. Tell him you want him to undress you slowly. If you're both feeling adventurous, you can blindfold him while he undresses you. That way, touch becomes the focus. Also, do wear silky lingerie and feel free to keep it on during sex, if this makes you feel more comfortable than being completely naked. It's important that you feel self-confident so that your sex appeal can shine through.
  • Express Your Desires
    There is nothing sexier than a woman who knows what she wants in bed and who feels comfortable expressing those desires. However, if you need to have a detailed discussion about what you like and what you don't like, don't do it in bed. Always begin by stating at least one thing he does right before listing what you would like him to do differently. Be sure to ask him what he wants, too.

I hope you've enjoyed this workshop. I hope, too, that you are enjoying your newly increased sex appeal -- and all the self-confidence it inspires.

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