This exercise will help you develop more poise and confidence. Naturally, when you feel poised and confident, you also look this way. Stand opposite a full-length mirror, as far away from the mirror as you can get. Relax your body and breathe deeply for a few minutes. Watch your posture and make sure you are standing very straight, with your shoulders down and relaxed and your feet planted firmly. Imagine your upper body being pulled toward the ceiling by invisible strings while your feet and legs are pulled toward the floor.
Walk slowly toward the mirror, pointing your toes with each step and caressing the floor with your feet. Think of yourself as a panther, ballet dancer, a queen or any other empowered person who suits your fantasy. While continuing to watch yourself in the mirror, sit down on a sofa or chair. Do this slowly and gracefully. Magnify all your gestures. It's okay to exaggerate in order to make sure half of what you do will eventually become part of who you are and how you act in the real world. The goal is to be able to enter a space with the kind of quiet assertiveness that makes others stop and notice you. A woman who enters a room in an assertive yet quiet way, and who uses a low, melodious voice, is more in control of herself and more attractive to others than someone who is loud. (Loudness is often a cover up for insecurity.) A whisper is far more powerful and sexy than a shout.