I am recently separated and been dating for five weeks now. My problem is that I am 41 and my guy just turned 32. We love each other, and the age gap doesn't bother him or me. But it's our friends. His mates kinda teased him about me and even tried to discourage him. It didn't work, but I'm scared that they will keep doing it -- and that they might succeed. I am a bit self-conscious as I am older and, well, the boobs don't stay where they should, and so on. It doesn't bother him, though. He likes them! But recently I've noticed a few things about me that I never saw before, and this makes me a bit wary. I dread meeting his friends. I know that I have to because we do want to go out, and we are always sure to bump into his buddies. God, I'm scared of what they'll say to me.
Then there's the problem of telling my ex and my son. When should I do it, if ever? They know that I have had my guy visit, but they think that he's only a friend. What the heck do I say?
Hi sweetie. Can I tell you a secret straight up? I'm 38, and my boyfriend is 29. Coincidence, eh? Exactly the same age difference as you two. I've been dating my guy for about five months now, and quite frankly, I never ever notice the age difference, and no one else does either. In the beginning, though, I did feel a bit self-conscious. Like you, all I saw in the mirror was wrinkles and signs of aging, and (horrible but true), I prayed that not only would my wrinkles fade but his would arrive (immediately) and his hairline would recede (immediately). Naughty, but we'd have to be not human not to think such things.