Your unadulterated thoughts on adultery

The lowdown on the MSNBC.COM/iVillage Love, Lust & Loyalty survey

In February, and iVillage asked readers to share their feelings about love, sex and fidelity.

Over two weeks, 70,288 readers completed the survey. Three-quarters told us they were in a committed relationship and the majority of participants have been with their current partner for at least 12 years. Fifty-four percent were men, with an average age of 43; 46 percent were women, 38 was their average age.

Here are some of the details:

What do you consider cheating?

Not surprisingly, nearly all participants say sexual intercourse with another partner is cheating — ditto, for having oral sex. Eighty-nine percent of women and 77 percent of men say it’s cheating to romantically kiss another person.

We've got pretty strict definitions of fidelity even when it comes to flirting. The majorities of both men (53 percent) and women (73 percent) consider sending a sexually flirtatious e-mail to a co-worker cheating.

Only 6 percent of men say looking at pornography is cheating, while 16 percent of women think it is.

More than two-thirds say that engaging on online sex talk or Webcamming with someone else is a relationship no-no.

When is cheating justifiable?

More than 70 percent of people say it’s never OK to cheat for any reason. Still, 26 percent of men and 9 percent of women say it’s justified if the other partner has lost interest in sex.

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