If your marriage is dangling by a thread and your spouse has made it perfectly clear that he is not interested in working on your marriage, don't ask him for anything right now. You have very little bargaining power at the moment. Your first task is to get your spouse to realize what a good thing he would be missing out on if he were to leave your marriage. Chances are, prior to beginning this workshop, you have asked your reluctant spouse for things that pushed him farther away. So don't ask your partner to change a thing right now if your marriage is extremely shaky.
If you are on the brink of divorce, you may be asking yourself why I had you read this step if you weren't going to use it. The answer is simple. What you learn as you go through this workshop is that everything is about timing. Now's not a good time for you to ask for anything. But perhaps sometime in the not-too-distant future your spouse will decide to reinvest in your marriage and you will be able to apply all the information you are learning here.
Now that you've set new marriage goals and determined the best time to ask your spouse for what you want in order to reach them, it's time to learn more about long-term strategies for improving your marriage.
On to Step 4: Choose a strategy >>