If words have failed to produce positive results in your marriage, if you've said to yourself, "I talk until I'm blue in the face," then stop talking and start doing. It's easier done than said.
Now that you have a few ideas of techniques that you can use to spark a change in your marriage, you need to learn how to figure out whether or not what you are doing is working. The most important thing to remember is that you have to keep your eyes open. You have to commit to doing something different and watching your spouse very carefully to see how well your new approach works.
On to Step 5: Take stock