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Jenny McCarthy has been gushing to the press about new boyfriend Jason Toohey -- and says she's learning from the mistakes she made with ex-boyfriend Jim Carrey. McCarthy, 37, tells People that her relationship with Toohey, 35, is "so open and truthful." In the past, she says, she didn't know how to be honest with the men she loved.
"I was a girl who pretended. I would say I liked things when I didn't," McCarthy confesses. "I knew if I wanted to grow, I needed to make myself happy before I could begin to have an equal relationship with another man."
The TV personality says that the realization came when she was working on her new book, Love, Lust & Faking It: The Naked Truth About Sex, Lies, and True Romance, which she was writing during her break-up with longtime boyfriend Carrey.
"While researching and writing it, I looked inside of myself and began to see what was wrong with me instead of blaming him for everything," she says.
So how has her new commitment to honesty made this relationship different?
"If he wants Chinese (food) and I don't, I say it," McCarthy explains about Tooehy, a fitness model and stunt performer who plays a pirate at the Treasure Island Casino in Las Vegas. "If he wants to go out and I want to stay in and watch Dancing with the Stars, I tell him so."
Well, we expected something a little more dramatic than that! Still, McCarthy's problem is one that most of us can relate to. It's hard for a lot of women to assert themselves in relationships, especially when our partners have strong opinions or big personalities (like, perhaps, Jim Carrey?). And while all relationships require some compromise, it shouldn't be one person doing all the compromising. If Jenny McCarthy can say, "I don't want lo mein tonight," then that's a good first step to being honest about more important things!
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