Reasons to Keep It Casual

Timing is essential, in all walks of life. While you're probably well aware of the obvious as it pertains to relationships and picking up women (communication and observation skills, adaptation to different situations, etc.), you may not think about timing very often, which is a crucial mistake. Some will say you simply follow the flirting flow; trace the grain through a series of events—good and bad—without falling out of the groove. However, this can lead to long-term commitments, so a Player must constantly control the direction of any encounter to insure any new romantic relationship remains entirely temporary from start to finish.

This requires more hands-on performance and a good deal of careful attention, even though it sounds suspiciously like work. If you don't want to be staring down the end of a double-barreled shotgun cleverly disguised as a marriage certificate, you had better take the necessary steps and precautions. In other words, you can keep things casual without accidentally sliding into a relationship where she begins to have "expectations."

If you think you've got what it takes and can successfully manage the Player lifestyle, heed the tips below. Just remember: If you shift your attention away from a new relationship, even for a split second, you could suddenly find yourself treading water in the midst of a vast ocean—with no hope of rescue. So I'll help you keep your footing on nice, comfortable Player Land; it's like Never Never Land, but for adults.

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