You may want to sign a new pact every two months. This will keep the pact and its rules fresh on your minds.
SYMPTOMS OF ALCOHOL ABUSE
Parents need to be aware of signs that may indicate their child has a problem with alcohol. Many times a problem with alcohol can indicate that a child is having an internal or emotional problem. Alcohol serves as the drug to "get them away" from it all.
Some symptoms might include:
bloodshot eyes, or bags under eyes
spends more time alone
changes in dress
changes in interests
changes in friends
changes in school performance
These symptoms do not mean that your child has a definite drinking problem, but they do raise cause for concern. Try talking to your child about whether he drinks or uses drugs. If you are unsure of how to approach these topics, speak with a guidance counselor for help. If you are still uncomfortable, seek help with a professional.
Remember, devoting time to education and a pre-cautionary pact can change your child's future. It might be the step that saves his life.
AN EXAMPLE PACT
I _____________ will always call my _______ if I find myself in a situation where I need a ride home, and there is no one who hasn't been drinking to drive me.
I _____________ will always pick up my child, should she call me and need a ride home. I will arrive promptly, without lecturing, yelling or placing blame. We will not discuss the incident until the following day. At that time we will discuss it and choose an appropriate punishment should one be chosen at all.