Kiss and Make Up: How to Get Back on Track After a Fight

Along with all the happy times, every couple is bound to hit that rocky road once in a while. After all, you simply can't be expected to agree on everything all the time. But while fighting is normal in a relationship, it's definitely not fun -- until it's time to make up, that is! According to iVillagers, making up almost makes battling with a beloved worthwhile. When asked how to get a relationship back on track after a fight, iVillagers eagerly shared their secrets -- from laughing the problem away to the ever-popular "make-up sex." Here, some effective argument enders you may want to keep in mind for the next time you and your honey hit a bump in the road.

Take a Time-Out
"After my husband and I have an argument, we spend half an hour apart to let tempers cool. Then we talk it through -- each agreeing to hear the other one out. Once that is over and everything has been discussed to both our satisfactions, we hug and kiss each other. We usually then sit, hold hands and watch a little TV, read a book together or listen to the radio. The most important part is to have that physical contact when all the dust settles." --iVillager Robin

"First we have a disagreement, then we go to neutral corners and cool off. Then we sit down and discuss the problem logically and rationally. We tend to stretch the discussion and find the humor and remember our love for each other. Then the touching and kissing happens! Talking calmly and communicating openly always has a way of getting us back in touch with each other." --iVillager Cate

"I think the best way to make up is to distract yourselves. Get out of the house and do something physical and social. My boyfriend and I go dancing. This keeps us from just sitting around and allowing ourselves to dwell on the disagreement. At the beginning, you don't really want to have anything to do with that person physically, but before long you're kissing, hugging and just enjoying the real reason you are together: the joy that you bring each other." --iVillager Laura

Up next: The Power of Laughter and Make Love, Not War

The Power of Laughter
"He's so silly. Every time I'm mad at him, he smiles and says, 'Kelly, don't laugh. You better not laugh. It's not funny.' He makes these really dumb faces and I burst out laughing. We never stay mad at each other. Then we kiss and everything's fine." --iVillager Kelly

"My husband and I get into little spats about everything. To 'kiss and make up,' we generally do something to make each other laugh. Other times we end up making mad, passionate love. I like those times best of all!" --iVillager Erin

Make Love, Not War
"At first we usually scream at each other. When everything calms down, we can sit and actually talk things over. The last thing that we do is make love. I'm not talking just sex, but making love." --iVillager tweetypie44313

"Whenever my hubby and I fight, we wait a couple of hours to cool off. Then we apologize to each other and have the most amazing sex ever." --iVillager SarahB

"My husband and I rarely fight. But when things get tense at our house, it means there is something that needs to be brought out in the open. So, we sit down and talk and cry (well, I cry) and pray for about an hour. And then we rip each other's clothes off and make love. Our relationship always seems to get better every time this happens." --iVillager Jennifer

"My spouse and I can really get into it. But when all is said and done we really get into it at the other end of the spectrum. Rename it 'kiss and make love' in our case. It is always some very hot, heavy and intimate sex. In my opinion, when you are that close, there is no other way to make up for all the bad feelings of fighting. It doesn't always wash it away, but it sure puts a different perspective on things." --Anonymous

Next up: Think It Through

Think It Through
"When my hubby and I fight, we never go to bed angry. We always try to reach common ground or take time out and think out the problem. That is just one of the special things I love about our marriage." --iVillager Rachel

"When my husband and I do get into a fight, it's usually for a pretty good reason, although, admittedly, our discussion about him getting a glass of milk and leaving the carton out all night got pretty heated. Some of us like to have cereal in the morning! After we each have presented our case, I leave the room. I sit down somewhere and go over in my head the things that were said. I keep asking myself, 'Was I fair? Was he fair? Is this really worth arguing over? How important is this to me? How important is this to him?' After I've asked these questions, I can identify and disregard the petty stuff and focus on the real problem. I go to him and tell him that we need to talk. I explain that I want to talk, not yell, and then I tell him how I feel. I also work out something we can both do to correct and avoid this problem in the future. Then I kiss him on his forehead, tell him I love him and end the evening by ravishing him on the coffee table!" --iVillager Xris

How do you make up after a fight? Talk about it with your fellow iVillagers in the Problem Solving for Couples message board.
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