Now that you have learned how to enhance the way you kiss
There are several physical components to great oral sex, but none of them are as powerful as your mental attitude. The men in my seminars have continually told me that their best lovers have not had the best bodies, have not been the most beautiful nor had the largest respective body parts. Rather, their most seductive feature as lovers is that they've been enthusiastic about sex and "into" doing whatever it is with their partner. So, ladies, if you don't want to do this or any other thing, don't. Believe me, your partner will know if you are genuinely into it or just going through the motions.
Now that we are all on the same page, here are the goods. Women typically have two concerns about oral sex with their men: gagging and swallowing. I will address both issues and offer solutions, in addition to giving you the how-to's you need to make oral sex truly great for both you and your partner.
Men have said that it's a combination of three things that absolutely makes for entering a woman during intercourse
Before I get to the steps to take for better oral sex, know that when you perform oral sex it's important to be in a comfortable position. Oft preferred is positioning yourself between his legs, half sitting on your legs. This gives you more mobility than sitting flat on your derriere. Also, you can take advantage of his visual nature and ask him if he'd like to watch. Consider propping him up with pillows.
Next page: The steps to better oral sex.
Step 1: Attach your hand to your mouth to create the "ring" and "seal." Your index finger and thumb will be in a ring shape, sealed onto your lips. Your hand stays there throughout the entire event. Your attached hand will be shaped like a tube. If your hand and mouth separate, you will lose the ability to create as much sensation in the crucial spots. This move accomplishes a number of things. First, it takes care of the gagging problem. If you know that the average penis is between five and six inches in length (the people who write articles stating that the average is seven inches aren't female), do a comparison to the length of the average woman's mouth. It is not five to six inches. However, if you attach your hand to your mouth like a small megaphone
With the ring in place, if he does get too rambunctious and starts thrusting, you don't have to worry about gagging, as the ring acts like a controller
Step 2: Be aware of your tongue. It is not just hanging out during this
Step 3: Start the motions. With your mouth attached to your hand, in an up and down stroke along the shaft, add the twisting of your sealed hand (it is like an elongated tube that is an extension of your mouth). Combine this with your preferred tongue strokes. Then, when you have the rhythm, add your free hand's motions elsewhere to create even more sensation.
Next page: Should you swallow?
To sum up, in the final combination of oral sex moves, you will be doing three things with as much fluidity as possible:
1. ...An up-and-down stroke on the shaft using the hand that's attached to your mouth, which will also be
2. Twisting during the up-and-down motion. Your tongue will be doing a
3. Strong back-and-forth stroke over the frenulum (that little "V" at the back of the head of his penis, which for many men is the most sensitive spot). Then you can add in your free hand to create sensations in other areas as well
You will note that I have said nothing here about deep throttling. The majority of women I have spoken to in more than eight years of seminars are not comfortable doing that. They do want to do things their partner enjoys, but this is invariably one they simply aren't comfortable with. As for letting him come in your mouth, and you swallowing, that, ladies, is up to you. Probably only 20 to 25 percent of women allow their partners to do this. What I will tell you is what men have told me (we're talking nice, regular guys) over the years. When I ask why this is so special and sought after, one man's statement says it all: "It makes me feel that one of the most masculine parts of me
That said, do what you feel comfortable doing. Remember what I said at the beginning of this lesson: The best lovers are those who are enthusiastic about sex and genuinely into doing whatever it is with their partner. On that note, I leave you to practice all the exercises in this Love Lesson as you Kiss Your Way to Better Sex.
