1. Take control:
You and your partner are kissing. You gently start to take control by placing your hands on either side of his face, holding his cheeks and guiding his lips. In doing so, you are in control of the amount of pressure and motion of his mouth and, in turn, he feels the warmth of your hands. This can be especially good if your partner's mouth is too loose or open for you. Then it is your responsibility to kiss him as you LOVE TO BE KISSED.
2. Get him to follow your lead:
Stop when you want and tell your partner, "I just love kissing. It's the one thing that gets me ______________ [fill in the blank; for example, you might add the word "hot" or "turned on" or "wet"]. Then look at him and say, "Will you show me what it feels like to be kissed by me?"
3. Introduce a fantasy:
Tell him that you had a dream the other night about how he was kissing you